I've learned that when I want something, I shall not chase it or try to control it. It's my job to ALLOW IT to come to me. Allowing means adjusting my vibrational frequency to attract the object of my desire. When I am ready to experience it, I will receive it. Until then, I find something else easy to focus on, that brings me joy, and that practice helps to realize that the object of my desire is not what will bring me more happiness. Its manifestation will be a result of who I have become.