Last week I had the opportunity to attend Simrit's concert in San Francisco. She is known for her innovation with mantra music and her ability to transmit a potent level of humanity and pure love through her sound. After the concert I was standing in the back of the room talking to my friend when Simrit came up and gave me a wonderful long hug. She has a beautiful personality and a soothing presence.
But what stroke me most was the unexpected and genuine hug she gave me, because it connected with me at a soul level and it is one of the things I observe in human interactions and relationships in our society. Some interactions leave a long lasting positive imprint on us.
I believe there is a healing power and a bonding force in a hug and in meaningful small gestures. We shouldn’t underestimate them.
And here I am referring to genuinely given/received hugs. The hug that make you feel like you just entered a timewarp and experienced a mesh of two souls. It’s comforting.
Through our human connections and interactions we see the reflection of who we are, we bring out the endless layers of ourselves, the light stuff and the heavy stuff, and it can take years (or even our lifetime) to really remove the unnecessary layers and be our true selves in this world. We all go through deep transformations, one way or another. We all experience joy and pain, sad moments, happy moments. We all live in our own reality, while partaking in other people’s realities. But even when reality seems so hard to bear, it doesn’t have to be lived alone.
Healing must take place for a positive transformation to occur and we need to want it, we need to open ourselves to it. It takes time, it takes inner power and the willingness to be vulnerable.
There are times in our lives that we’d need a friend, a lover, a family member, or even a stranger to help us overcome our most difficult challenges and be there for us during the tough moments, but the real work and transformation comes from within.
No one is responsible to fix another person’s life, however we can still hold space for others while they are working through their stuff. When it’s safe, we can support others through their healing process, with compassion and free of judgment.
That is why true connections are important. They can be transformational.
Sometimes small gestures could help someone that is having a bad day to have a more a positive experience. A genuine hug could awaken a beautiful part of them that was dormant.
True connections make our burdens lighter, open our hearts and help to heal our souls.
“Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around.” ~Leo Buscaglia